"Skee-Wee, and GOOD-BYE!!!"Happy Birthday, Tee-Tee!!! I love you!!!
This post is gonna be short and sweet.
2008...what have you given me?Hey all!! Hope your Christmases were AWESOME, and that you got everything that you wanted and needed, and that you got to spend it with who you wanted to. I didn't get anything on my Christmas list :-(....but it's all gravy. I'm well aware that it is better to give than to receive, and trust me, I did a LOT of giving, spending money I didn't have.
I'm just blessed and thankful to be alive and looking foward to the new year.
Over the break, I realized that I need to let go of my pursuit of ole dude...formerly Houston, formerly the boy, formerly The Russian etc.
He's just way too inconsiderate and I'm tired of always being blamed for his shortcomings. I'm tired of his excuses, and his inability to take responsibility for his actions. I realize now that we are better off as friends until he grows up, and then we can try again.
I guess, in a way he tried to tell me he wasn't the one. My persistance got me into this mess...but I'm determined to get myself out. I've been praying about it, and everytime I have a lingering thought of him I ask God to "remove the longing". I don't want him completely removed from my life because he is a good friend. I DO, however, want any romantic thoughts and feelings to dissipate until he gets his shit together and can pursue me like a real man.
I am worthy of true love. I deserve it, and one day it will come. Patience is indeed a virtue, and I bet I will have one of the best fairy tales to tell my kids one day.
Oh, and don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to blame him for us not working...I blame him for not admitting fault and trying to fix it. I blame him for not trying to reach out me...He told me about a month ago that he could sense the end of our friendship...he told me that if it ended, it'd be my fault because I wouldn't reach out to him. Sorry buddy...you're prediction was only half true. I've done nothing BUT try for a whole damn year...OH WELL...
No use crying over a nigga I never had in the first place. WOrd to the wise...inconsiderate behavior will get you no where with ANY WOMAN unless the bitch is dumb.
I'd like to think we'll always be friends, but I'm tired of trying...time to move on....
Anyhoo...TOODLES
P.S. We had some good times, but it wasn't fun while it lasted! Oh, and friendship is a reciprocal situation. The sooner he grasps that concept, the better off he'll be.
This song sums up our twisted relationship/friendship to a mother fuckin TEE and I never noticed til today, but I've known this song since it came out..."Nothing Lasts Forever" by Maroon5 (auto play taken off...visit imeem.com to hear full song)
"It is so easy to see disfunction between you and me
We must free up these tired souls before the sadness kills us both
I tried and tried to let you know
I love you but I'm letting go
It may not last, but I don't know
I just don't know"
Chorus:
"Everyday...with every word whispered we get more far away
The distance between us makes it so hard to stay
But nothing lasts forever but be honest babe
It hurts but it may be the only way"
AND IT IS...at least for me right now!
I found these stories a while back on a message board I used to frequent. This shit had me rolling...I can relate, because my grandma in GA used to have roaches something terrible, and I swear one of them bitches bit me and gave me a rash that I have to this day!!! Anyhoo, enjoy!!
Story 1:
"son i'm dying right now because this shit is mad true...my thing is i don't even think its always a matter of them trying to front and hoping you dont see it...i honestly think it's so prevalent they dont even notice like that, it becomes a natural part of the decorum in the crib....
boom i remember back in the days i met this girl at black expo, we exchanged numbers and kicked it on the horn for a week or so before we actually decided to meet up at her place in brownsville for a movie night...soon as i stepped in her lab there were like three roaches parlaying on the pre-requisite wooden fork and spoon on the kitchen wall so i knew this was going to be trouble...we sit on the couch and [ZOOM!] two more race across the coffee table, i said "oh shit!" in shock at their raw speed and how they chillin in large numbers like niggas...she was like, "don't worry they aint gonna bother you"...turned out the lights, popped the movie in and got cozy on the couch next to me...
so after a while we're kissing and i'm an eyes open kisser, yo once i went for her neck? BOOM, i peep one on the wall above her couch, duke was brolic and his antennaes were moving like thunder sticks, i was shook son...so anyway she backed off the kissing like, we're moving too fast and i was good with that because i needed to keep my eyes on that damn wall...well the movie diverted my attention from him for a few minutes and the next thing you know i felt something on my neck...i jumped up screaming, "AH SHIT, THE ROACH JUMPED ON ME YO! THE ROACH! A FUCKIN ROACH!" while i jumped up and down and ran in circles like a little kid....it was then i realized that my hoody string was up on my shoulder and fell down grazing my neck....after that it was a wrap to say the least, she was mad embarrassed...she said, "well, i'm kinda tired sooo"...and i was like, "yeah me too" and i bounced out of there with the quickness...once i got outside i went into a blimpie's bathroom and took off all my clothes and shook them shits out thoroughly...we never kicked it again, i'm itchin right now just thinkin about it smh.…"--Claude
Story 2:
"smh you know you got a roach prolem when you dont give a fuck about roaches no more....I dont even bother pickin up dead roaches no more....they all over in random places...yall woulda thought some roaches detonated a suicide bomb while they homies was parlaein in my crib....I found one in my fridge mane....and I was thinking....how the fuck.....ahhh....never mind.....and shut that shit and continued my day....smh"
--Vance
First, I would like to start this post off by stating that I am not talking about the conventional means of speed-dating...the whole going to some location, sitting down at a table and having random people sit at the other seat across from you and try to get to know you in 15 minutes (or less). NO, I'm not talking about that shit, because my life hasn't come to a place where I need to speed-date in that manner at the age of 20.
I'm talking about rushing into a damn relationship out of guilt or pressure. That USED to be me when I was a young teen. These guys would guilt me out of my good sense, and I'd be booed up with them, only to find that they were messing with other girls as well. My problem was that I could NEVER say no to these dudes. They made me feel so bad with their sob stories...I gave in like a dummy and always ended up regretting the shit. What it comes down to is that I was letting them take advantage of me. I was naiive.
So now, at the tender age of 20, I find myself in similar situations, but things are different this time around. I've learned that even though I'm caught up emotionally with the boy, to keep my options WIDE open...
Anyhoo..back to the point at hand. In January of this year, I found myself in a situation with a guy that goes to my school. We fooled around or whatever...to my dissatisfaction...but I guess this dude doesn't have much experience with females, because he can't pick up on the OBVIOUS clues that I don't want to deal with him like that. He's a cool person, but I'm not physically attracted to him anymore...haven't been since that day he came to my room! We never clicked on any other levels, so honestly, I don't get why he's still so persistant. It is THE LAST MONTH of the year, and dude still texting me. No, I'm not going to send you pictures of me! No, I don't want to see your naked dick!! I told him a long time ago I was involved with someone, guess he doesn't care...ass hole!!
The next guy, was this guy I met at a school function. He was cute, or whatever. He asked for my number, I gave it to him. You know, no big deal. I stopped assuming every guy that talked to me wanted to get in my draws a long time ago. He didn't give off that vibe. Okay, so he calls or whatver...and we really have very little in common so I get bored quickly. He wants to get lunch one day, so I invite him to my dorm for some chicken wings and shit. He comes in my room sweaty and hot from walking across campus, plops down on my bed, lays on my AKA pillow like a fool...DUDE!! WTF??! Then he's rubbing all on my back and shit! First of all, WTFB?!?! WHat are you doing? Let's just say, that was the end of that shit. I saw him the other day and he goes, "You been hiding from me, haven't you?"! I wanted to say HELL YEAH...but I kept it moving.
The last dude is really a piece of work. He messaged me randomly on facebook and stuff at the beginning of the fall semester...and then we found out we stayed in the same dorm. Dude has been on my ass like crazy, but since he is kinda flirty with a lot of females, again I tried not to assume that he was trying to get the booty. Okay....extremely long story short...I was at a party this past Thursday, and this dude straight up cornered me in a bathroom, locked the door and asked me why he didn't have a chance with me, when CLEARLY I had told him 10 minutes before that I didn't see him in that way. Then he facebook-chatted me yesterday and was like, "Why did you run from me at the party?" I was like....I wasn't running, dude. He was like, "I wanted to take advantage of you when we were in that bathroom, but I controlled myself". Something inside me went off like an atom bomb. I told him that what he had just written was NOT something you tell a female! You don't know what my past was like, if I've been "taken advantage of" before. He was like, "I don't see what's wrong with me expressing the way I feel". I was like, "That's just something you don't say. It sounds really bad!" Then he proceeds to tell me that he finally got a chance to take a peek at my ass in " those tight pink jeans" I had on at the party. WTF?!?! Nigga, you sick!
So I give you these scenarios to say this: None of these young men ever approached me in the right way. All they did was initiate conversations. From there they went assuming that since I say, "hey" back I want them to jump my bones, marry me, or be my lover. None of them ever took the time to get to know me....all conversations revolved around them and their freaky fantasies (guy #1), their boring life in general (guy #2), or their boring freaky life (guy #3). Questions about me centered around me getting involved with them in some kind of manner. I think guy #2 wouldn't have been so bad if he wouldn't have made such a bad impression in my room that time. You just don't lay your hot, stankin, sweaty body down on somebody's bed like that, ESPECIALLY when you don't even really know them!
I feel like these guys were trying to rush me into relationships without getting to know me first, and this pisses me off. I'm more than just a pretty face, and I'm WORTH getting to know!! None of them EVER asked if I was involved with someone else...I mean, what happened to dudes asking up front, "You got a man??" I mean, they don't do it anymore and I think it's because they don't care...OH BUT THEY SHOULD! Guy #3 is learning the hard way, because I think I hurt his little pride IN PUBLIC at that party. He should have come correct!
I told Guy #1 I was involved a while back, and he ignored...I mean, what do these fools want me to do? They all have good friendship qualities, but they'd rather skip that and jump head first into a FUCKED up relationship...and I'll be damned if I become a statistic on UAB's campus! That's why i don't fuck with UAB dudes now!
The moral of the story is: in order to get with me, there has to be an initial connection (check), and an ESTABLISHED friendship (all were lacking). Therefore, certain details about our lives should be shared...not forced out. My longest lasting, and best relationships blossomed out of real, true friendship...Like the one my hunny and I share now. We've been friends since '06...we KNOW each other, and most importantly, we are COMFORTABLE around each other! That's what I'm looking for. I heard it somewhere..."Comfort is the only thing in your life you have control over." You control what your environment is 9 times out of 10 and whether or not you can deal with the setting...That's my point.
So to those 3 guys, and others who may potentially want to try me...I'm not into that quick shit! Get to know me first, and then we'll talk (LITERALLY!)!!!
Shout-outs to my REAL homeboys: EB, Mar, Bran, Juan, BMC, Quin, Merl, and Bookie
And to my BOO: HOUSTON!!!!!!
*I look hella relaxed and happy....(I really wasn't...I was pissed), but I want to give the facade that I'm in chill-mode for the time being.*
Hey y'all!! Sorry for the lack of updates, but I've had technical issues with my pc (that is working now...for the moment), and I'm also studying for dreaded FINALS, but I decided to take a break for a minute to relax...So yeah, check out Beyonce's song, "Halo" off of her I Am...Sasha Fierce album...my friend Bennie put me on it!! Great song...reminds me of my boo when he's not trippin.
Pray for me that I do well on my finals tomorrow. I have 2.5 tests to take (Chem @ 8am, Genetics @ 10:45 and a retake in genetics). I need a B in genetics and at least a C in Chem...like FOR REAL! My GPA, my stint at UAB, and my sanity depend on these two grades!!! After these exams, I will be FREE again until Jan.7th!!! I hope all of you are well! I will be making blog rounds after 12pm tomorrow...or later...I'm sure you understand, lol.
Love y'all! Peace...OH, and HAPPY 21ST BIRTHDAY, EBD!! I love ya! :-)
Anyhoo...
Hi all. Blogging from my dorm's pc room once again, but it's just me and my soror down here right now. I'm going home tomorrow for the break, and I am OH SO EXCITED!!! This semester has been the worst one yet! But anyhoo...I have some new music from Ne-Yo that I'm really feeling. This single is called, "Single"...really cute song.
And uh...since I'll be home, in the midst of TRYING to study for my Chemistry test that takes place the Monday after break, I will try to blog a little bit more and put y'all on a few other tracks that are old but pretty hot. But yeah..
Oh and Kongrats to the newest additions of the Kappa Kappa Chapter of Kappa Alpha Psi ("Gucci" Chapter), especially the guys from my class (c/o '10) Greg R., Justin W., Mario A., and Chase R. I'm proud of you guys!!! Hopefully I'll be able to put up some pics or video or something...but we all know how that goes...
*sigh* I'll holla at y'all on the flipside. Hope your weeks are off to a lovely start! :-)
*Update (I took the song off of automatic mode, so press play to listen)
So I've bet you've noticed that I've been gone for about a week...besides having a nervous breakdown Sunday night...my computer decided it wanted to ACT THE ASS, once again, and now good friends, I am without a pc for the umpteenth time.
The AC adapter is shot. But I ordered a new one on Monday and am expecting it very soon (fingers crossed). Exams are approaching, and though this is a time for study, if my computer issues get straightened out, I plan to blog regularly, because honest to God, this stuff is relaxing.
I'm blogging from a desktop pc in my dorms computer lab right now, and I feel like I'm being watched even though there's no one in the room...I hate it, but I just had to let y'all know why I've been gone.
But yeah, this week can be chalked up as one of the worst ever thus far...Broke down on Sunday, Crammed for a genetics test on Monday/ didn't get to turn in my Calculus computer assignment, Tuesday was just whack, Wednesday was blah (a ray of sunshine was the kid I tutor, but I found out he's moving to Florida...so :-( . Then I forgot I signed up to make gingerbread houses for this habitat for humanity thing....OMG! Not only did I have to buy stuff for the house (with money I didn't have), but I felt like I was being rushed...I wanted to scream last night. Today I had my Chem 2 Lab Final exam...I think I did the best I could (which ain't bad), considering 80% of the questions were vague as hell....whatevs
So yeah...I talked to some old flings and my boo of course...I GOTTA post that picture once my pc is back up...I don't care anymore...
But tell me why is it that when you find someone you wanna get serious with, all the dudes from your past (or females in the guys cases) wanna come back and try to holla...like they got radar or some shit and are like, "Oh, I was just checkin on you...how you been?" I'm like, "Jigga, you wasn't studying me 2 wks ago when I was all alone...did I just randomly cross your mind?" Which I'm sure is the case, but it's just so weird how the times synchronize like that...it's almost ANNOYING!!!! Anyhoo...I think that's enough for now. I love you all. Please keep me in your prayers. I used to think that I worked well under pressure until this week when my hair started fallin out because of the stress...It'll get better! November 25th (Thanksgiving Break) can't come soon enough!
OMG!! Drama abounds in the land of little children who think they're grown. Yeah, sure you may be 19,20,21...and on your own...but you act like a freakin child and it is now my time to get away from you and hide in the solace of my annoying ass family, who no matter HOW BAD they get on my nerves, I love them and I have the best times with them.
Y'all mufuckas in Birmingham are PISSING ME OFF!!! Y'all are like that annoying ass paper clip that used to show up on Mic.ro.sof.t W.ord and hop around talking asking if I need help typing my paper or spelling a word.
BITCH! I GOT THIS!!!
For real though, I just need a break from all the madness that is UAB. I got folks texting me on some messy bullshit asking me if I'm still cool with this person and that person...like how random is that? Like the text just exuded HATE. And it's kinda fucked up because I feel like the person texting me was trying to get me to be extra messy on some shit I have nothing to do with. I don't have a problem with the person you beefin with...so I'm not gonna bash them just because you and a couple other folks do. Somethin just ain't sitting right with me about this...DAMN that shit threw me for a loop. Just random shit like that is making me want to go home and STAY home...but I got a job to do, and I won't stop just because a few folks wanna act foolish. It is what it is.... I just know that I GOT TO GO!!! Holla on the other side (The Gump).
**Press play to hear the song!!! (Had to take it off auto-play)
What you got to say about that?!??! Words can not express how ELATED I AM!!! I just saw Michelle kiss Barack and tell him she loves him!! I just saw TEARS streaming down Jesse Jackson's face!! YES!! Jesse Motherfuckin Jackson was CRYING!!!!!!! Even his hating ass can't deny the sheer AWESOMENESS of this occasion!!
I'm so glad to have been a part of this historic day!! Say a prayer for him y'all...cuz he's gonna need it!! Folks already up in arms about him winning, but the fact of the matter is that it's a DONE DEAL!!!
GO BARACK!!! I VOTED!!! Pics of the Election Watch Party coming in a slideshow soon...
Hey all!!!! The big day is here....EXERCISE YOUR RIGHT TO VOTE!!! OMG!!! Today is MONUMENTAL!! I'm headed for the polls at 10AM!!! I just wanted to post a pic of the shirts Iota Phi got made just for this occasion!!!
Cute, huh?! Well, yeah!!! I'm a little anxious about voting...the lines are gonna be hella long...sheesh!! But it'll all be worth it once my boy is in office!!!
An aside: A few of my white child-hood friends are expressing some pretty strong and sorrowful opinions about today through their facebook statuses...I guess I would too if the shoe were on the other foot...so I'm not going to be TOO hard on them, but they need to chill out with all this "WHOA is ME" shit....whatever happens, happens!!! "Y'all ain't ready, Y'all Ain't Ready!!! What's up, What's up!!!" LOL!!
GO VOTE, YO!!!
Wut it do?! I now have a working laptop pc...but the operating system is A MESS...so don't be surprised if within the next 24 days I'm incognito AGAIN! Anyhoo...just want to mention a few things quickly...
ELECTION DAY IS FREAKING LESS THAN 2 DAYS AWAY!!!!! PLEASE GO OUT AND VOTE!! Please do not sit on your asses ON THIS VERY IMPORTANT AND HISTORY MAKING DAY! I've heard a few folks say that they are not going to vote because things are sure to be hectic (with traffic, long lines at the polls, and what-not.) Shit, November 4th should be made into a National Holiday in instances like this (Pres. Elections)...NO WORK!! But because it's not...go to work...BUT GO VOTE TOO!! And if you got time at work, TAKE A FREAKIN DAY OFF!!! It's not going to hurt you if you've got the time saved up anyway.
I, personally, am making the 4th a holiday. I'm not going to classes, a friend and I are going to vote together, and then we're going out to lunch!!!! Can't wait!! My sorority chapter (Iota Phi, AKA) is also having an Election Watch Party to see how the votes turn out. It's gonna be pretty big! Oh, and we got shirts made! :-) They're cute!! I'll try to put up a pic BEFORE Tuesday...If not...maybe after.
So yeah...This week is sure to be exciting and interesting...either way!! Remember to do your part and GO VOTE!!!
Oh...and after Tuesday, this joint is getting a facelift!! That's all for now...TTYL!
Yes he is...
Got the computer y'all...and came up here. Plugged it in to my school's internet connection and...BOOM!
So yeah, I have to head over to BestBuy and get them to re-install Windows XP on it. UAB is fuckin up BIG TIME!!!
I really would write from here (in my dorm's computer lab), but I just feel like I have NO privacy and that's not cool. So...yeah...periodic updates will have to do. I wanted to put y'all on some Raphael Saadiq tho (his new shit...it's only 30 seconds long tho). I love him so much. Anyhoo....yeah. I love y'all too...
TTYL!!
I miss writing, and I miss y'all...
I've been without a computer for...well...EVER...well, I can't say completely devoid of one, but defintiely without my OWN computer. But God looks out for His children. I'm supposed to be getting a laptop from my boss soon...like this Friday soon, so I'm looking forward to that.
Quick updates:
My Uncle passed away this Sunday. Keep the James/Evans family in your prayers. Thanks
I am officially in LOVE with Ques.
I HATE MATH AND CHEMISTRY!!! I flunked BOTH of the first tests in each class.
Boy troubles abound....no end in sight.
I LOVE MY AKA
The Doctors from THE PACT are coming to my school on the 23rd. Wanda Sykes is coming on the 27th...uhhh....
I will be updating as SOON as I get a computer. I have a story for you all.
I'm discontinuing my lil rundown of my vacation. I'll probably just post the pics at some other time.
I'm broke as a joke, and amazed at how HIGH gas prices are!! What a joke!
Jazmine Sullivan AND MAXWELL are coming to Birmingham on Nov. 10th!!! How exciting!!!!
Go cop Jazmine's album which comes out on the 23rd.
Okay, I'll be back some other time. Thanks for the encouragement, Eb! It's hard...but I'm trying. Talk to you guys soon!!!
aHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! Y'all, I'm on hiatus. School is already kickin my ass, two weeks in. Pray for me. Hope all is well! :-)
PRE-CURSOR:
For the past 8 or 9 years, my family has ventured to Gulf Shores/Orange Beach for a little fun. The past two years have been something else...us staying at one of the most bourgois condos in Orange beach, Phoenix on the Bay II. This needs to be our LAST year going down here. It's fun...but frankly, it's getting old. People call it the "Redneck Riviera" because of all the racist whites out there...Plus it's Obama season y'all. I ain't tryna die on no subsequent vacations!! Please believe! anyhoo, enjoy these pics real quick before I get into what happened on Monday.
Phoenix on the Bay II
Big Timing. It costs thousands of dollars to stay here for a couple of days. We do it for a week. But trust, it wasn't easy. We started saving for this trip last year, right after we got off the last one.
The infamous slide
I take damn good pictures!
The condo across the way. Not nearly as grand as our property
Another view
So... my recap of summer vacation starts with Monday, August 4, 2008--the day one of my best friends in the world turned the BIG 21!!!
Birthday Girl!!!!
My hunny lives in these parts in a town about 10 minutes outside of Gulf Shores. Initially he and I were supposed to rendevous on this vacation, but that never happened as he decided to return to H-ville early in preparation for the new school year. Sucks for me, right? So the plan for the day was to get up with Gemini's (formerly The Russian) best friend (whom my cousin is "talking to") and some of his boys to show Quanita a great time on her 21st birthday. So we start getting ready around 1pm (well I do, because I had to go to the bank with my mom). The guys were supposed to come get us around 4pm. There was already some confusion and ambiguity about that because dude, I will call him "Redd", drives a Mustang...and he was already gonna be 3 deep...A mustang will NOT hold 6 people comfortably...well not a convertible anyways. Redd just kept going on and on about how he wanted his cousin "Big Boy", and homie "Squint" along for the fun. I was skeptical as to why the extra body was needed, since I wasn't looking for anyone to kick it with. Quanita was supposed to hang with Squint, and my cousin Chell with Redd...I was gonna be fifth wheel, but wasn't worried about it. Whatevs...I'd just call Gemini and talk to him or something.
But yeah...we get ready and are looking fly:
THANKS!!! So, mama fowards me this email, and in her message she says, "SO TRUE...LOL". Now I don't know if she felt that way for real, or if she just wanted something to say. My mama is a VERY intelligent and "smart" woman, but when it comes to bull-shit email lists, I noticed that sometimes she just says stuff just to say it. In any event, I am going to post this little laundry list of things you should tell all girls about men...hmph...my thoughts included
15 PIECES OF ADVICE TO BE PASSED ON TO YOURDAUGHTER, GRANDDAUGHTER, YOUNGER SISTER, NIECE, COUSIN... all the GIRLS!
1.. Don't imagine you can change a man... Unless he's in diapers. (okay, I agree with this tip...You can incite change, but you can never ever force it or CREATE it...a man has to want to change for you HIMSELF!!)
2.. What do you do if your boyfriend walks-out? You shut the door. (sure...maybe...I wouldn't suggest running after ANY man, even if it is YOUR fault. There is a time for all of that, and right after an argument probably isn't one of the best.)
3.. If they put a man on the moon... they should be able to put them all up there. (didn't get this one)
4.. Never let your man's mind wander... it's too little to be out alone. (what weak-minded men are these women messing with?! If his mind is wandering, there is a reason, and his brain capacity can't be that small if he has the ability to think of someone else!)
5.. Go for younger men. You might as well... They never mature anyway. (hell naw, though I typically end up talking to guys slightly younger than me, there is no way I would exclusively date obviously younger men...I don't have time for the immaturity. It is true that with age comes maturity, so stop fuckin with young boys just because you assume men will always be immature.)
6.. Men are all the same... they just have different faces so that you can tell them apart. (I semi-agree. They all have the same WAYS, some are just less/more severe than others. Some have more tact. But just like women come wired the same, so do men...it's nature.)
7.. Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity to make some woman miserable. (eww, I have to disagree. a bachelor is a single man, and he has VERY much potential to fuck a sista's life up, please believe! Single men are ruining lives and breaking hearts EVERY day!)
8.. Women don't make fools of men... most of them are the do-it-yourself types. (sure, whatever)
9.. Best way to get a man to do something... is to suggest he is too old for it. (you can tell some white woman came up with this list...*sigh*)
10.. Love is blind... but marriage is a real eye-opener. (ok, thanks for the heads up...)
11.. If you want a committed man... look in a mental hospital. (not funny)
12.. The men of Israel wandered around the desert for 40 years... Even in biblical times, they wouldn't ask for directions. (ummm)
13.. If he asks what sort of books you're interested in... tell him chequebooks. (This bitch is from Europe!)
14.. Remember a sense of humor does not mean that you tell him jokes... it means that you laugh at his. (ok, WORD. Because a lack of sense of humor is a deal breaker for me. I need somebody who constantly keeps a smile on my face and laughter in my heart. Laughing reduces stress, something I have lots of!)
15.. Sadly, all men are created equal. (really now?)
So yeah, after reading through the list a few times, I have come to the conclusion that this list was contrived by a middle-aged white Brittish woman (or Canadian). In any respect, I appreciate her little words of wisdom, but uhh, no thanks for real! And how could my mother, a strong, black educated woman think that majority of the things listed held some truth?!?! Man, whatever! Anyhoo...
I can't stand generic ass thinking when it comes to men (hell, ANYBODY), because all of these negroes are different...these lists are fine in some ways, cuz sometimes you can generalize to make a comparison...but this list just hinted a tad bit too much "white woman's" opinion to me, and I honestly can't identify. Now, I'm a good daughter, so I won't get on mama for sending me this list, but this is definitely not something I will be passing on to my friends, little cousins, nieces, and MOST CERTAINLY not my daughter. God willing, when I have a little girl, she will know what she needs to know through me and other strong-minded women like me...not from some generic ass, Eurocentric minded list. Please and Thank you! Good night!!
This was fowarded to me via text just a second ago...
" 2 prostitutes were walking. 1 said, 'Girl we gonna get PAID TONIGHT!!!! I can smell dick in the air!' The other laughed and said, 'Bitch, I burped' " !
Sorry I just thought that was funny...
So, photobucket was being a bitch last night. I have no way of uploading pictures at work, so I'll try again later tonight. I took some really good pictures, and I'm thinking about taking photography up as a hobby or something.
Anyhoo...I basically ran down the first day of vacation for you with the "*Sigh*" Post. I think it'd be more appropriate to run down the vacation's events with the pictures I took that day, so as soon as I get all 120+ pictures up, I will run down with the stories. Monday was a hot-drama-filled mess!! But we looked cute tho!
For today, I'm going to post a meme I saw on Eb the Celeb's awesome blog. I love the vibe of that place. Sometimes I just go over there to chill and end up staying all day...but yeah...here's the meme thingy.
1. How many people have you kissed in 2008 that actually meant something?1
2. Were you happy when you woke up today?better today than I was Monday or yesterday. It’s hump day, and that means 4 more days til I move back to freedom.
3. Do you hate the last person you kissed?No. Quite frankly, I think he may be the 1st person I fall in love with
4. What are you listening to right now?the sound of trucks and cars passing by my office building
5. Have you ever liked somebody and never told them?Yes
6. What would I find if I looked UNDER your bed?a bunch of shoe boxes, old papers, toys (from my child hood, okay!), dust, dead roaches, lol
7. What are you wearing?black pants, a stripey green, white, and black dress top, and some black pumps
8. Are you texting anyone right now?naw
9. Do you like anyone right now?yes
10. Have you ever kissed someone and never saw them again?Unfortunately, NO
11. Have you ever thought about getting your nose pierced?yes. But I think I’ll pass
12. What can't you wait for?the 17th so I can move back to Birmingham and be on my own again
13. Have your parents ever smoked?No
14. Do you want someone back in your life?No, because I feel like, if the person left voluntarily they don’t need to be there in the first place. If they were taken from me, it happened for a reason
15. Who was the last person who called you? The Russian
16. Are you good at giving directions?Not really, but I’m good at following them
17. Would your parents be mad if you got pregnant /got someone pregnant?Yeah, it’s not something they want for me right now.
18. Rent a movie or go to movies?Going to the movies tonight as a matter of fact
19. What did you eat last?a Nature’s Valley Peanut bar…I’m addicted!
20. Has anyone told you they missed you lately?No, though I wish that person would. Maybe if I tell them first…
21. Is your ex still in your life as a friend?I don’t know where that fool is. Last I heard, he moved back to Atlanta and is a homeless bum
22. Are you wearing any clothes that don't belong to you?No
23. Would you ever steal someone’s boyfriend or girlfriend?No. Karma is a bitch
24. Mountains or the beach?beach
25. When was the last time you cried?For real for real, August 3, 2008 when I found out my boy Mario passed
26. Who's someone you miss?Mario Morgan. And I’ll never get to see him again...
27. How many times have you been in love?what is love?
28. How many times have you had your heart broken?I believe you can have your heart broken and not be in love, but maybe that’s just getting your feelings hurt…in any respect, I’d say twice…once it was shattered. It was healed, then someone came and disappointed me sorely, but it has since began to repair itself…
29. Do you hate people who are obsessed with things like High School Musical, Hannah Montana, and The Jonas Brothers?Liking them is one thing. Obsession is another. It’s annoying as fuck, that’s all I’m gonna say. And those Jonas Brothers are UGLY!
30. Have you ever spread a rumor about someone?Maybe…
31. Did you French kiss before you were 16?I was 15…lol
32. Who is the first person you think of when someone asks you who you like?The Russian
33. Have you ever liked someone who all your friends hate?Yes, once upon a time…lol and Kevin is his name-O.
34. Do you prefer to call or text someone?Depends on my mood. Texting is good to get a feel of if someone wants to talk…whereas if you call, you get shut down automatically if that person doesn’t feel chatty…
35. Were you bad in high school?No…I was good and different…but in a good way.
36. Would you take any of your ex's back?No. I can’t handle whiny, clingy dudes, and I can’t deal with people who ain’t bout shit and ain’t goin nowhere in life.
37. Do you cry over girls/boys?It happens…
38. At what age did you start noticing the opposite gender?Kindergarten
39. Are you happy with your love situation?Sorta…I can’t complain. I’m taking things slow with the hope that everything will work itself out. I just hope we don’t get tired of each other and start looking elsewheres this fall…we go to different schools. And eye-candy abounds in the form of FRESHmeat…
40. Last boy/girl to hurt you?The Russian, but things have since improved
41. Would you fail your drug and alcohol test?No because I don’t do drugs and I don’t drink…
42. Who's your favorite person to cuddle with?I haven’t cuddled in a WHILE….so I can’t answer that question honestly right now.
Just quickly peeking my head in the door to let those of you who care know that I am alive. My vacation was less than enjoyable, but for the most part I can't complain, because unlike my dear friend Mario, Bernie Mac, or Isaac Hayes, I am alive to recount its events.
1) The first night of my vacation, I'm sitting by the pool, looking up at the stars and trying to relax and make the best of an already stressful, drama-filled vacation when I get a text from my friend from church. Skipping the dramatics of the texts, I call my friend and she proceeds to tell me that our friend, Mario had been killed early that morning. He was shot while trying to break up a fight. I don't know details beyond that. My heart dropped below the pit of my stomach if that's even possible. Mario...*sigh* we grew up having a thing for one another, but it was always the kiddy crush thing. But he was always so sweet to me. When I was going through my awkaward teenager phase (chubby, glasses, braces), he was one of the very few guys that told me I was pretty and meant it. He is the only guy that pegged me as an AKA when others stereotyped, saying my 11th grade year of high school, "Candice, you're gonna be an AKA. I just know it". He smiled and walked away. That was impressive to me...Mario never seemed to play into stereotypes, and I realize now that he looked on the INSIDE of people instead of the outside. Mario went into the service (Navy, Marines, one of em), and came back a changed man (from the goofy kid he was). He is survived by his mother Darlene, his younger sister Kelsey, and his baby girl Mariah. It's sad that she will grow up not really knowing what a great MAN her father was. Mario was such a kind hearted person, but I believe in his growing up stages, he caused his mother great pain. Even still, we all make mistakes, and Mario was well on his way to redeeming himself. You'd never think something like this would happen to someone who is genuinely GOOD. But it always happens to the good, the innocent by-standers. The guys he USED to hang out with would surely go before he did (we thought)...but we were wrong. Mario got killed trying to do something good, something right. Got caught in the cross-fire.
I ran into the condo, jumped in my bed, pulled the covers over my head and SOBBED. I wept and cried. I was HEEVING! My heart hurt so bad for that boy, because I just knew he was gonna make something out of his life. He had recently got engaged...he had so much life ahead of him. It breaks my heart to think about it. I missed his funeral (which was Saturday), because I was still in hell (vacation). Maybe it's for the best. I don't want my last memory of Mario to be of him in a coffin.
The last time I saw him was at church this summer. He was with his fiance'. I was walking in front of them. He said, "Hey Candice!" I turned around and he reached for a hug. I hugged him...
I'm so thankful I can remember him for the sweet guy he was.
I love you Mario Morgan. I will always remember our conversations, your laugh, your smile, how good of person you were, you...I miss you terribly already. I love you. Rest In Peace!
Also, condolences to Bernie Mac and Isaac Hayes' families. These two GREAT Black American entertainers died within days of each other. It is a great loss to our community.
Man...this is one of the saddest Mondays of my life.
I plan on recapping the trip from day one. I'm to upload pictures tonight when I get home, and then I'll go from there. Also, I want to share a few pictures of Mario tomorrow if I can, a mini-tribute of sorts to my friend. I miss him so much y'all.
And of course, I gotta remember my boys Bernie and Isaac, so I'll have that up sometime soon too, hopefully. I just don't have the energy (physical or mental) today, y'all. I apologize. I am still in mourning and Mario died a week ago. But that's what happens when someone you care about leaves you. It just doesn't go away, and my mind keeps drifting back to that red, smiling face of his....*sigh*
I have a lot to say, but I'll hold it for now. Maybe blog-rounding will make me feel a little better. Keep me, the Jones-Morgan family, Bernie Mac's and Isaac Hayes' families in your prayers ALL this week. Mario was put to rest this weekend, but the journey is just beginning for the other two families. Prayer changes things.
--peace--
LOL...not really a big deal to me. Just like STG being a year old is not that big of a deal. This is an online diary MUCH!!! Anyhoo, I'll be away for a while. I'm going to TRY to enjoy myself in Orange Beach/Gulf Shores for a week with my family. Will it be hard? YES! These muhfukkas ALREADY starting drama and mess. Oh well...I'll hole myself up in one of those rooms and read/plan my semester out. It's all good. Pics of Isaac's lil birthday situation and the Beach Trip when I get back. So look for me on the 11th I suppose. Adios, Au revoir!!
It's that time of year again...(upped/revamped from last year) 
IT'S SINGLE WORKING WOMAN'S WEEK!!! (July 29th-August 4th)
I helped my single friends and loved ones celebrate this week, last year, and we're back at it again. I will culminate this observance in Orange Beach/Gulf Shores with one of my best friends who happens to be a single working woman. Her birthday is actually on the 4th.
For those of you who are oblivious to this holiday...check it out!
"SWWANs share in the joy as their friends celebrate impending marriages with showers, bachelorette parties, weddings. It's not unusual to spend a boatload of cash on these celebrations for friends going into a 2-income situation. Until now, one-income single working women have had no official occasion to celebrate like those for their getting-married friends.
What happens during Single Working Women's Week?
Single Working Women's Week is a chance to celebrate your courage and creativity. It's also a chance for those who love and respect you to help you celebrate. It's an excuse for them to shower you with cards and attention.
Single Working Women's Week is a week all its own--not connected with any other holiday--so your celebration can be undiluted. It's just for you and your single working women friends and colleagues. it's a great opportunity for the people you love and cherish and serve to show you how much they appreciate all you do."
Single Working Women's Week is a relatively new national observance. Please feel free to visit the SWWAN website here to find out more about the observance and what you can do to celebrate, or help a friend or loved one celebrate.
**Now on to my soap box!
We ALL know women in our lives who work like slaves, carrying 1, 2, or even 3 jobs just to make ends-meet. Some of these same women have children to support--mouths to feed, tuition to pay, etc. Well here's the opportunity to show them how much we appreciate their contributions to our families, businesses, and society as a whole. Single women, working to support themselves and/or children deserve a round of applause, a pat-on the back, a standing ovation and much, much more.
Ladies, do something special for yourself, or treat a friend. You deserve it, trust me, you do! Hip other women to this holiday, get the word out so it becomes more nationally known.
This post is dedicated to my aunts Benita, Helen, and Barbara, and to all my SWWs all around the blogosphere! I love y'all, you are appreciated.
Warning: This post contains graphic material (can't say I didn't warn ya)
My fascination with this word stems back to fall 2006 when I first entered college. I'd met a couple of guys who were into Japanese anime and culture, so much so that they took a Japanese language class that same semester. These guys lived on my floor (yes, co-ed dorms with dudes staying right around the corner. It was convenient for some...), and 2 out of the 4 residents were from my city. Their fellow high school classmate had introduced me to them the night of the Freshman dance.
Anyhoo. SEPPUKU. So one day, I'm just chilling in the guys' room. These dudes love to joke, so as they went around the room picking each other apart with their words, I hear one, named EB, say, "COMMIT SEPPUKU". These niggas already knew the word and what it meant, mind you. But I didn't, so quietly I asked, "What the hell is seppuku?" They chuckled and the small red one with long dreds, B.ran answered in a loud voice, half laughing, "It means, KILL YO SELF!!!!"
Okay, so you have to realize that I am but 20 years old. The stuff that we say sometimes can be taken seriously/literally but is generally said in jest. As I mentioned earlier, these dudes were having a roast-fest. The other 3 girls and myself looked at each other and fell out laughing. Suicide IS NOT funny, but the connotation (don't rappers say "Kill yo self" all the time?) and context was hilarious to us. Seppuku has been a part of my general vocabulary ever since.
*Side note: I do realize that the power of life and death is in the tongue, so when speaking to others, especially people we don't know, we should always strive to watch WHAT we say and HOW we say it.*
So on to the general history and meaning of the word. Excerpts are taken from the good people over at wikipedia.
Seppuku which translates into "stomach cutting" is a ritualistic suicide typically reserved for Japanese samuri, although it has permeated into the general culture and at one point became a means of capital punishment.
Part of the samurai honor code, seppuku has been used voluntarily by samurai to die with honor rather than fall into the hands of their enemies, as a form of capital punishment for samurai who have committed serious offenses, and for reasons that shamed them. Seppuku is performed by plunging a sword into the abdomen and moving the sword left to right in a slicing motion.
In time, committing seppuku came to involve a detailed ritual. This was usually performed in front of spectators if it was a planned seppuku, not one performed on a battlefield. A samurai was bathed, dressed in white robes, fed his favorite meal, and when he was finished, his instrument was placed on his plate. Dressed ceremonially, with his sword placed in front of him and sometimes seated on special cloths, the warrior would prepare for death by writing a death poem. With his selected attendant (called a second) standing by, he would open his kimono, take up his knife and plunge it into his abdomen.
Seppuku, often thought to be a traveler's myth by many Westerners, is known to be one of the most, IF NOT THE MOST, painful ways to commit suicide.
You learn something new every day, because where I thought seppuku was just the GENERAL term for suicide in the Japanese lanugage, I learned that it is a special method set aside for special people (samuri), and these men committed this act to restore honor to themselves and the family members they would leave behind. Not to glorify suicide, because I think it's disgusting, but the way I was introduced to the word incited my curiosity about its origins, since I had never bothered to look it up until yesterday. Like my guy friends from school, Japanese culture does intrigue the hell out of me, hence why Memoirs of a Geisha is one of my favorite movies. I just wanted to share this tidbit of knowledge with those of you who care, lol.
FYI: The female equivalent of seppuku is called jigai, pronounced "jih-gye".
For more info, click here or here. Yes, at times my young mind wanders off into the land of morbidity. Oh well, *shrugs*
Estelle Getty, widely known for her role as Sophia Petrillo of the Golden Girls passed away today in her Los Angeles Home. She was 84 years old. The white "Ms. Sophia" has been out of the public eye since 2000, struggling with dementia and other complications for quite some time. I, like most of my friends and family, LOVE the Golden Girls. We always said, "Sophia ain't as old as she's playing. She got too much spunk". Ms. Getty will truly be missed. It was a joy watching her sarcastic witicisms on the TV and laughing at how she treated her pathetic daughter "Dorothy". I will try to find a video later on that catches the true essence of the character she played on Golden Girls, and put it up by the end of the day if I can. Estelle left this earth just 3 days before her 85th birthday. :-(
My condolences go out to all of her loved ones. Rest In Peace, Mini Ma'am (that's what I called her). I know she's up there getting angels told right now, lol.
Top 25 Qualifiers WITH commentary!!!!
1) You converse with other people more on their 'walls' than in person (haha...it's been done)
2) You go emo when someone takes you off their friends list ( I admit, I used to be like this, and it still bothers me when my friends count goes down, even by 1. I'm like WTF de-friended me?)
3) You ask people to join even though you know they won't use it (BOBBY!!!)
4) You get on facebook before you go to work, which puts you on there before 7am (that's me!)
5) You deactivate your account, then reactivate it, then deactivate, then reactivate it again...don't bother trying to leave (QUIN and Bony)
6) You stalk people that you are secretly in love with, the news feed assists in that. But hey, stalking on "Da Book" is not seen as "sketchy"...so do you...(rolls eyes)
7) You're married on facebook, but not in real life (What kind of shit? Tho I've seen it before, I just don't understand it).
8) You take pics just to put them on Facebook, then you wanna tag everybody and EVERYTHING (including inanimate objects) in the damn picture. (I DO NOT TAG, unless it's me or I want the tagged person to take notice of the picture, otherwise, you tag yourself!).
9) You are a sophomore/junior at your college, yet you have over 1000 friends there. How the hell do you know all of those people? Oh, wait! You DON'T! You friend people to up your count! Then you see these people in public and don't know who they are well enough to speak. I got the right mind to delete your ass!
10) You know about your friend's break-up before they can finish crying about it because of the little broken heart icon that popped up on the news feed.
11) You are routinely introduced to people and have to pretend like you don't know them. Uhhh....this happened a few times, but SERIOUSLY, just speak up for goodness sake!
12) You are pissed facebook is turning into myspace. MYFACE....BOO!!!! I prefer facebook pre-2007. It was a simpler time, when you had to have a valid college email address to join. I was ecstatic about joing in Nov. of 06 when I got my acceptance letter into UAB and was able to create my email/ID...but then, facebook got greedy, and now 10 year olds are friending me, and it's ANNOYING!
13) The only reason you check your email is to see if you need to check facebook. Guilty as charged!
14) You use the word "facebook" as a verb (i.e. I'm going to 'facebook' Brian when I get to the house vs. looking him up on facebook). I'm guilty of using "facebook" as a verb.
15) You are one of few people who use facebook chat (which is LAME!! And you are lame for using it...yeah I'm talking to you...YOU!)
16) Your profile has so many applications on it that it takes several minutes (more like 10) to load. Please get a life if your profile takes more than 2 minutes to load. I understand that you may have video/slideshow/ and bumperstickers. But that entourage shit is just UNECESSARY!!!
17) Your usual bed time has shifted by two or more hours because you are on facebook so much. GUILTY!
18) You use facebook mobile...UHHH why? YOU ARE ADDICTED, HANDS DOWN, IF YOU DO!! No message or update is THAT important!
19) You feel popular when someone tags you in a photo. It shows others that you do in fact have a life and that it's pretty fun!
20) You can't wait to poke, superpoke, or attack as many friends as you have with the werewolves, vampires, ninjas, and all them other bullshit applications! OMG! People...for real? I had some niggas try to get me with that shit. And it's hella annoying! Oooh I get burned up just thinking about it!
21) As soon as you meet someone in real life, you go home to search for them on the Book.
22) You affectionately refer to facebook as "FB", "Da Book [the Book]" or "CrackBook". ME!
23) You think wishing someone "happy birthday" on their wall is suffice. Uhh, I do this all the time. As U-U put it, "It's not official unless it's on facebook". The world has to know you care about this person. If you can't pick up a phone and dial/text, there's always facebook! Plus there's no excuse to forget because facebook reminds you.
24) You are disappointed when you click on a person's picture only to find that you can't access their personal info because you are not their facebook friend or in their network. I have my shit set like that for a reason. Too many random niggas and females friending me...NO!
25) You constantly do things to your profile so that you will show up in your firends' news feed more, and hopefully thier friends will see your name, and those who know you will become friends with you. It's a vicious cycle, I tell you. I'm sorta guilty!!!
If you have a facebook, you can NOT tell me that it doesn't get addictive at times, especially around the holidays! Hello, my name is Candice, and I'm addicted to CrackBook.
HAHA
K, so my homie/soror Reese put me on Fox's So You Think You Can Dance first semester of sophomore year (Fa '07). MTV was showing re-runs of season 3 and ever since then I've been hooked. I was even more stoked about watching this season's show, because I personally know one of the contestants, Stephen "Twitch" Boss. Now, we weren't like homies or anything, but he is a native of my city, and when I was a little girl, he went to my church. I remember him being active in the choir, and attending the annual summer Youth Retreat. He even dated my friend Rose. I REMEMBER. I was way too young to be in his face or on his jock, so I doubt that he remembers me. But anyhoo...after trying out for season 3 and not making it, Twitch decided to come back and give it another try, and damnit if he ain't killin it right now!! I love this man, and he gets my votes every Wednesday night (sorry Joshua). Anyhoo...
I'm not running down a full bio on the 8 that are left and the 2 that got cut last night. Cuz that's not important. What I will say is that there is a STRONG chance that a BLACK GUY will win this season. There is only 1 white dude left, and then of course 3 white girls and 1 black girl. I AM however going to speak on my favorite dancers. I've already put Twitch out there, so here's his pic...
Ain't he handsome!?!
Next there's Will. I love Will, I really do. He is so fine, his body is OH-EMM-GEE, and his dancing skills are beyond fabulous. He trained with Debbie Allen, who was a judge on the show, but after Will made the cut to move on to the REAL DEAL, she had to leave (gotta be fair, ya know). He is definitely probably a better dancer than Twitch, but only because he is contemporarily trained and to me, that means you can dance almost any genre and be better than say, someone whose concentration is hip-hop or jazz. Nonetheless...the judges have deemed him one of THE BEST, and I don't think he's going anywhere anytime soon. Here's Will, y'all.
The last male dancer I will mention is another brother...young brother (19) might I add. His name is Joshua. At first I thought something was terribly wrong with dude, but yet I was strangely attracted to him (probably cuz he reminds me of my boo). His dancing (hip-hop/popping) is unbelievable, and in my honest opinion, he melds better with different genres than Will even. Mary Murphy, a main-stay judge of the show said that it looked like Joshua was, [paraphrasing] "stroking the dance floor like a paint brush" when he did the Rumba Wednesday night with new partner Courtney. Almost every genre he has done outside of his own has been nearly flawless. He is so adaptable, it's scary! I love Joshua. At times he acts a little feminine, but I'm going to push those thoughts aside and attribute that to excitement and his age. Anyhoo...should my beloved Twitch leave the show any time soon, with Joshua remaining, lil man will definitely get my votes.
On to the girls. Okay...so I really wasn't feeling this girl. Still don't. And Lawd, if she ain't been paired up with my baby,Twitch. Their chemistry is lacking to say the least, and it is having adverse effects on the both of them as far as judging is concerned. Anyhoo...comfort reminds me of an UBER annoying version of my friend Deja'. Deja' has this very free-spirited out going personality as does Comfort. Deja' is always willing to put on a show...and well, so if Comfort. This is all fine and dandy, but I don't know...too much is too much sometimes and Comfort puts herself out there. I wish she was a lil more laid back. The heffa can dance tho!! Her style is none other than hip-hop and she is darn good at it. The funny thing about Comfort is that she was actually voted off LAST WEEK along with her NEW partner Thayne, but after Will's partner Jessica suffered rib injuries (and subsequently is out of the running) Nigel Lythgoe (the exec producer and one of the judges) brought Comfort back. Talk about redemption and second chances!! 
Anyhoo. I'd rather Comfort be competing than Twitch's old partner Kherington, even though I loved the mesh-up nickname fans everywhere adoredly called them --TWITCHINGTON-- Kherington got voted off last night. She was cool, but I could tell she was either getting tired, or her spirit for dance was dying. Either way, she was dragging down Twitch and her other partner Mark. It was time for her to go. My only thing is, I wish Comfort was not paired with Twitch either, but you can't win em all. Unfortunately they are in the best match-up they could possibly be in. Joshua and Courtney, Will and my girl Katee (Josh's old partner) ARE FIERCE together! *shrugs shoulders* ah, well.
Lastly, if a girl should win it all, I would want for Katee Shean to be the champ. I don't have many words for her other than she is delightful to watch. She is a beautiful dancer, and her personality shines like one of the brightest stars. She was Joshua's original partner (they danced together for 5 wks), and then she was paired with Will, and damnit if they won't be the last two standing. If it came between the two, Katee would get my votes.
The Top 10 will be going on tour this fall, and I hope they come somewhere close to the Ham so I can catch them in action. The Top 8 are:
--Will, Katee, Joshua, Courtney, Mark (didn't discuss), Chelsie (didn't discuss), Twitch, and Comfort.
--Gev and Kherington received the least votes from viewers and were sent home.
Predictions:
Do I think Twitch is going home soon? There's a chance. The best of the best are dancing right now and there can only be one winner. But I think Mark will be going home before my man. Comfort is out by next week. It's inevitable!
Last note....that Lil C cat...(a judge off the show, known for Krumping and being one of the stars of the Documentary RIZE) is FOINE!!! And tho he seems street and hood and BUCK this negro's intelligence shines through and that is such a turn on. You should have heard him giving all those analogies and shit...Formulating coherent sentences...JESUS!! Do NOT underestimate black men that dance hip-hop...that negro could take over the world if he wanted to. And I'd be right by his side, lol...just kidding!
Tune in on Wednesdays to Fox at 7pm to watch 2 hours of terrific dancing from the above mentioned.
Tune in on Thursdays at 8pm to watch the results of who America thinks should stay, and who should go.
Go to fox.com/dance for info on when and where the Top 10 will be touring!!!
Enjoy this routine by Twitchington choreographed by Mia Michaels I think. One of the best routines from the show.
HEY! Just wanna let you know what you can expect tomorrow from moi.
--So You Think You Can Dance Commentary --THE TOP 08 (hopefully get a vid too)--
--You Know You...(hmmm...wonder what it will be).
I may hit y'all up with the Lollipop Day schpill on Saturday. Next week (esp. Monday) will be interesting to say the least...
You may wonder why I ask...well according to The Swamp (yeah, I know...), Mrs. Obama has been extended an invitation to join Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. as an honorary member. This same honor was extended to Sen. Hillary Clinton who initially accepted, then declined the invitation, when she discovered that membership is exclusive and she wants to be able to work with all organizations in their endeavors. Cool Beans, whatever floats your boat. Now hold up, wait a minute. I love Michelle, and I'd love love love to call her soror, BUT, if you continue to read the article, Michelle (or better yet, her spokesperson) is under the impression that she will be allowed to "work with" the other Divine 9 sororities in the same capacity as a member (of each org). Uhh..no, that's not exactly how it works. BGLOs are inheritantly EXCLUSIVE, and once you are inducted, you are what you are. You can not work with other organizations as members of that org as well as another. It just doesn't work like that!
There seems to be a misunderstanding or a mistranslation of the situation, but since it has been reported that she accepted the invitation, she can not and will not be bestowed the same honor by the other NPHC sororities. Now if you read the comments below the article, many have been weighing in on whether or not Michelle should have accepted the invite into AKA. People think she should have remained neutral, at least until after her husband's seat in the white house was (is) secured. They say hasty judgement on her part, because she is further alienating herself from black women, black Greeks, etc.
I honestly don't know how I feel about the situation. She has not/will not be inducted during this week's activities during Boule'. Read this for more insight on that. The comments following this article are also pretty brutal. I don't know folks, but there is a lot of unecessary hate coming from other greeks and GDIs and I think it's kind of ridiculous. People say Michelle doesn't fit the bill, but I beg to differ. She is an intelligent, successfull woman--an attorney and political activist. She is also an outstanding role model for young women. I think she will be a wonderful addition to our list of honoraries. And even if Barack doesn't win the Presidential Election, Michelle can still inact change in her's and surrounding communities and be a wonderful viable asset to the sorority. Her husband's possible post as commander-in-chief may have inspired the decision to extend her an invitation, but at the end of the day, Michelle Obama is a great woman, regardless.
In the same vein, I think before accepting the invitation, she (or her spokesperson) should have done a little research and understood that there is no such thing as "non-exclusive" membership as an honorary member of an EXCLUSIVE sorority. As one person from a message board I frequent put it, "Cultural Competence". Maybe her spokesperson is responsible for this "mix-up" in that if the person is of another ethnicity/cultural background (because I will not ASSume that s/he is white), they may be speaking soley on non-experience and what they MAY think they know about GLOs. The spokesperson may think of AKA as the typical run-of-the-mill philanthropy/charity that anyone can be apart of, as opposed to a business boasting over 200,000 inducted EXCLUSIVE MEMBERS.
One thing is for sure, whether Michelle (or spokesperson) is confused or not, is that she should be able to work with all NPHC sororities, and BGLOs in general. Just as Greeks on college campuses should do more to UNITE for the COMMON CAUSE OF SERVICE (which is what I will be fighting to improve this year since I am Greek and henceforth a member of UAB NPHC), Greeks should allow her to assist in any endeavors she takes an interest in, regardless of her affiliation, ESPECIALLY if she becomes the First Lady. I believe that we are Greek first and foremost, and where affiliations, colors, and letters divide us--they should also unite us, because each letter is apart of a whole Greek alphabet, colors--our orgs DO NOT OWN, and affiliations should not stop us from working together for the betterment of our BLACK COMMUNITY!
In closing, to the naysayers, yeah, maybe she should have waited. But who knows for sure that she would get the chance to accept such an invitation ever again?! There was no AKA chapter at Princeton when she attended, so here's her chance, ya know. But wait...is she just accepting to be nice, does she even want to be an AKA?!!?! Maybe she does, and that's why the invite was extended to her in the first place...maybe this observation is a bit personal and unwarranted. I'm just hella curious tho...but I digress. I will keep my eyes and ears open as to what will further go down with this situation, and keep y'all posted. So yeah, Good day, mates. Tomorrow is FRIDAY!!!!!!
